Do you remember how adorable the baby's face looks, how his eyes sparkle, how sweetly he squeezes your hand with his tiny palm when he wants something? And what kind of smile appears on his face when you satisfy his whim? When is a pleasant cloud of delight and gratitude enveloping you? Little manipulators know perfectly well what you, the parents, need and give it to you if they have a corresponding need.
Now analyze your behavior. How often have you "broken down" over the past month, responding to your child's charming smile: "And this is the last time." Now calculate how often you agreed with his whims when the smile stopped working on you and the "heavy artillery" was used: shouting, crying, stamping your feet? How many times have you managed to say the necessary "yes" to your child instead of the necessary "no"? Do you realize the scale of the problem now? If so, then that's fine, because it's time to start worrying – every one of your thoughtless consent leads to satiation of the child, and each time he needs more to regain that feeling of joy that has somehow disappeared. And who is to blame for this? Not a child, no. The parents themselves are to blame.
The only thing that matters is what we don't have yet. Quite often, the fulfillment of a wish brings less excitement than expected, because postponing the fulfillment gives the desire a special charm. A trip to the circus or zoo, a weekend together at an amusement park – the kid will appreciate it only if the event is not routine. With each repetition, the joy fades and becomes a simple whim, so do not rush to fulfill all the desires of your child.
Unfortunately, even if you would really like to, the family budget is not unlimited. Convey this idea to your child and invite him to participate in its distribution. Gradually instill in him an interest in financial matters, but do not overdo it. The children's worldview is very fluid, it is constantly being updated and undergoing tremendous changes every day. If a child begins to take for granted "payment" for some of his actions - good behavior, high marks, winning contests – then in the future he will build his relationships precisely on the principle of "give, don't give."
On the other hand, do not be afraid to gradually explain to your child that the well-being of the family, and therefore the satisfaction of the desires of the members of this family, depend on common efforts. This, of course, does not mean that the child should start earning money on his own, but only instills economy and thrift. It would be a good idea to buy a piggy bank, the funds from which the child can spend at his discretion.
Teach your child to share, but remember that it must be mutual. You don't have to scold a kid if he doesn't want to give you the last piece of candy or tell him that "Misha, my friend's son, is such a good boy – he always shares." The child will feel ashamed, but will not understand what he is guilty of. Start sharing by yourself, because children learn only from examples.
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